There's a rather domestic side to me that lays somewhat dormant most of the time. When I'm not planning crazy travels, obsessing over my career or frolicking in the nature, I like to bake. And cook. It's therapeutic and I do it for myself. There's nothing like the sense of fulfillment you get after making food from scratch!
Honestly, this is my mother's fault for drilling domestication into me from day one. She's always told me I could be the biggest career woman I wanted to be, but if I couldn't run a kitchen or work a sewing machine? Then I wouldn't be a "real" woman. I loathe this way of thinking and it's definitely up to debate, so I'll save it for another time. But I'm digressing and unfortunately, I DID succumb to mother's warped way of prehistoric Asian thinking! D'oh.
So if I was given the choice between hitting up a random restaurant or staying in for my home cooking? I'd definitely choose the latter just because I don't get to exercise my own creativity enough. Don't get me wrong - I love eating out. But my own food is not all bad.
Plus the Vancouver skyline as a backdrop is pretty dope.
If you were/are a friend/acquaintance of mine and you came over for dinner, cracked open a bottle of wine, had dessert on top of my grub - does this constitute as a date? I've been asking people and 95% of them are all saying YES.
Actually my friend Lisa said it best, "um, don't you normally know the answers to these types of things?!"
I guess not if I'm inviting friends over for dinner and they think I love them! How embarrassing. And confusing. After a while I'm like, wait a minute ... this was NOT what dinner's supposed to be about!!
To my defense, it's been a while since I was taken out on a proper "date". You know, where the boy texts/calls you and expresses real live interest. Comes over and picks you up at your front door, opens the car door and other heavy objects for you, takes you to some sort of event/venue where conversation ensues and sparks either fly or not, then the anticipation of them calling afterwards, the ongoing debate on whether they like you and vice versa, etc etc. Where the heck was I when it changed to: girl cooks dinner, boy comes over to eat, boy tries to cop a feel?? The next time I invite people for dinner, I'm going to have to include a disclaimer: I am *NOT* D-T-F!
And to think I haven't bothered much with the dating scene lately simply because I didn't envision myself settling down with a husband in the immediate future. But it turns out I'm going to have to keep up with the times to avoid being socially inept. Strike one for smiley!
not DTF? so what you're really trying to say is that you'd rather be the designated hitter? (urbandictionary.com! lawl!)
if i come to vancouver, would you cook for me? i just like food in general :P *gets hungry* blah... it's like 3 in the morning T___T;; we can go out on a "date" afterwards as payment for dinner. hehe...
So when you pop over here ... does that mean that I get to sample some of this home cooking?
heh, you can invite me over for dinner anytime and i promise not to hit on you, i just love free food =] cake ftw!
I like cakes too so delicious
i don't know how to cook . . .
and i'm too lazy to even cook rice.
then again, i always figured that i would make enough money to hire all that crap out. not to mention, i think i'll acquire all the abilities i need to before i get married and have kids . . . or so i hope.
that or i can only hope the future significant other knows how to cook? i suck at womanly duties. it's funny b/c i can do all the other male shit like drive stick, etc. etc. but i can't do anything "womanly." then again, my family has taught me that i can do anything a man does, if not better. YAY! i think that's why i tend to do more masculine things?
but anyway, kudos to you for being the quintessential woman of the 21st century!!!
i also prefer to eat at home. dont really remember the last time i ate out. maybe more than a yr ago. i'd ask to have u invite me over for dinner since i know u got some skilz, but i think i'd have competition =P
whoa, whoa, whoa.....so you're saying that....a woman inviting me to her house for dinner isn't part of foreplay???
=) i keed, i keed...
it's good you're not caught up with the dating scene. just have fun. In my experience, and my experience only, people generally aren't ready to do the difficult things to make a relationship work until their late 20's.
I really enjoy cooking also! Although there are many times the inexpensive eateries in Vancouver manage to lure me out of hiding.
As for inviting a friend/aquaintance for homemade dinner, dessert, and wine - it does seem rather odd unless you state the obvious before the invite. Otherwise we guys like to be positive and think an attractive girl is putting on the moves ;).
like you said, cooking is therapeutic...i don't think that has any wrong in it, i'm a guy, i cook but i don't think it should be characterized as a woman thing, i think its part of survival, something i believe any single person should do well, is to cook for oneself, unless you wanna starve or keep going back to mom's for left overs hahahahhaa
@clustered - i'm not saying i'd rather be the HITTER but u can't expect me to cook and then put out! i ain't no hoe-bag!!
Tag you're it!
I love cooking and baking too! It's just so satisfying when the end product is edible and the eating party fully appreciates the meal.
I can see where this got a little gray. I feel like if you guys are good friends and talk and there's no chemistry..then cooking dinner is just eating with a friend. But nowadays when people dont usually cook and cooking takes time and effort....and most ppl only cook for the someone "special" (again, because no one cooks anymore..regularly at least)..that's why its a little confusing??
and wine + dinner = something romantic?? you see this all the time in movies...sorry smiley, i think it might have been a gray situation..haha~
I definitely want to try your cooking though!! recipe?? pictures?? I promise I will not get the wrong idea if you invite me over! hehehe
I love cooking--but HATE CLEANING! this hatred of cleaning is also very specific to the kitchen (the rest of the house? sure, I don't mind cleaning it).
anyway.. as to the date or no date thing, it just depends on the relationship you have with the dude. if you guys have already been friends, then no... if it's a new friendship then yes. :p
need some easy recipes? cooking is easy and fun, but uber uber messy!!
yeah the more common defn of "date" is just a gathering with friends and dinner....i used to take "date" as something similar to what you described...a guy taking me out for dinner, opening doors, and pulling chairs out and whatnot or even movies out with another guy would be a date....isn't that what "date" used to be? now we have dates left right even hanging out with our girl-friends cooking constitute as a date. weird...
How very . . . traditional. Interesting.
it must have been the vancouver skyline
it's not a date: it's just two people doing stuff.
relationships are better when you don't think about them. mmm cake yum ^^
recession special at home yo! i've been on this baking kick. made cinnabuns the other day. dizzope.
but you know i cook and bake. does this mean moms thought i was better off in the kitchen than in the workforce? booooooo
inviting people to your place to eat COULD be a date. it's all subjective.
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oh Em! =/
not DTF? so what you're really trying to say is that you'd rather be the designated hitter?
(urbandictionary.com! lawl!)
if i come to vancouver, would you cook for me? i just like food in general :P *gets hungry* blah... it's like 3 in the morning T___T;; we can go out on a "date" afterwards as payment for dinner. hehe...
So when you pop over here ... does that mean that I get to sample some of this home cooking?
heh, you can invite me over for dinner anytime and i promise not to hit on you, i just love free food =] cake ftw!
I like cakes too so delicious
i don't know how to cook . . .
and i'm too lazy to even cook rice.
then again, i always figured that i would make enough money to hire all that crap out. not to mention, i think i'll acquire all the abilities i need to before i get married and have kids . . . or so i hope.
that or i can only hope the future significant other knows how to cook? i suck at womanly duties. it's funny b/c i can do all the other male shit like drive stick, etc. etc. but i can't do anything "womanly." then again, my family has taught me that i can do anything a man does, if not better. YAY! i think that's why i tend to do more masculine things?
but anyway, kudos to you for being the quintessential woman of the 21st century!!!
i also prefer to eat at home. dont really remember the last time i ate out. maybe more than a yr ago. i'd ask to have u invite me over for dinner since i know u got some skilz, but i think i'd have competition =P
whoa, whoa, whoa.....so you're saying that....a woman inviting me to her house for dinner isn't part of foreplay???
=) i keed, i keed...
it's good you're not caught up with the dating scene. just have fun. In my experience, and my experience only, people generally aren't ready to do the difficult things to make a relationship work until their late 20's.
I really enjoy cooking also! Although there are many times the inexpensive eateries in Vancouver manage to lure me out of hiding.
As for inviting a friend/aquaintance for homemade dinner, dessert, and wine - it does seem rather odd unless you state the obvious before the invite. Otherwise we guys like to be positive and think an attractive girl is putting on the moves ;).
like you said, cooking is therapeutic...i don't think that has any wrong in it, i'm a guy, i cook but i don't think it should be characterized as a woman thing, i think its part of survival, something i believe any single person should do well, is to cook for oneself, unless you wanna starve or keep going back to mom's for left overs hahahahhaa
@clustered - i'm not saying i'd rather be the HITTER but u can't expect me to cook and then put out! i ain't no hoe-bag!!
I can see where this got a little gray. I feel like if you guys are good friends and talk and there's no chemistry..then cooking dinner is just eating with a friend. But nowadays when people dont usually cook and cooking takes time and effort....and most ppl only cook for the someone "special" (again, because no one cooks anymore..regularly at least)..that's why its a little confusing??
and wine + dinner = something romantic?? you see this all the time in movies...sorry smiley, i think it might have been a gray situation..haha~
I definitely want to try your cooking though!! recipe?? pictures?? I promise I will not get the wrong idea if you invite me over! hehehe
I love cooking--but HATE CLEANING! this hatred of cleaning is also very specific to the kitchen (the rest of the house? sure, I don't mind cleaning it).
anyway.. as to the date or no date thing, it just depends on the relationship you have with the dude. if you guys have already been friends, then no... if it's a new friendship then yes. :p
need some easy recipes? cooking is easy and fun, but uber uber messy!!
yeah the more common defn of "date" is just a gathering with friends and dinner....i used to take "date" as something similar to what you described...a guy taking me out for dinner, opening doors, and pulling chairs out and whatnot or even movies out with another guy would be a date....isn't that what "date" used to be? now we have dates left right even hanging out with our girl-friends cooking constitute as a date. weird...
How very . . . traditional. Interesting.
it must have been the vancouver skyline
it's not a date: it's just two people doing stuff.
relationships are better when you don't think about them. mmm cake yum ^^
recession special at home yo!
i've been on this baking kick. made cinnabuns the other day. dizzope.
but you know i cook and bake. does this mean moms thought i was better off in the kitchen than in the workforce? booooooo
inviting people to your place to eat COULD be a date. it's all subjective.